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How to Solve Domestic Violence: Through the Eyes of Black Men

Systemic racism, a history of racist policies, and racist social structures all contribute to Black women and Black men experiencing intimate partner violence at a disproportionately high rate, according to a 2020 study released by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV).

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4 months ago

March 15, 2022

Charlene Muhammad

A key to solving domestic violence is the participation of the whole family in the treatment process

By Charlene Muhammad | Special to the Oakland Post

Black male peace advocates working to eradicate domestic violence in their communities say a key solution is providing more education and resources to those who harm their partners, children or others living in their homes.

That NCADV report found that over 45 % of Black women and over 40 % of Black men have experienced intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence or intimate partner stalking in their lifetimes.

Separation is a key to safety and survival, DV experts say, but in some cases, it is only a temporary solution. There are countless stories of women who have filed restraining orders and fled to a safe house with family or friends — sometimes even remote strangers — only to return to toxic environments, where some unfortunately have been killed.

So, advocates feel it is important to increase awareness among males and recruit male allies to become active in making a change.

“That’s one of the things that’s going to be really important in terms of addressing and curbing some of this, other men stepping up to the plate, supporting other men and holding other men accountable to stop the violence by modeling it in on their own lives and through their own behaviors,” said Edward L. Moore, an Oakland-based certified life coach and batterer’s intervention specialist at Men Creating Peace, a community-based organization.

He currently works with Oakland’s violence prevention program helping young men understand how they can avoid domestic violence and intimate partner violence.

“When men do become batters, the approach we take is more punitive,” said Moore, before clarifying that he is not suggesting there shouldn’t be consequences or men shouldn’t be held accountable.

“But the approach has been through a more judicial than social lens,” he observed. “For example, most of the men I get in support groups come through mandatory classes, which feels very punitive to them.”

According to Moore, 85 % of those seeking services are court-ordered and 15 % of them are self-referred – men who have started to feel the impact of their violence and are seeking change. Regardless of race, socio-economic status, background, upbringing, culture or religion, men from all walks of life seek their help, he pointed out.

According to Moore, facilitators do their best to hold batterers accountable, while letting them know they made a mistake that doesn’t necessarily define who they are.

“We really show them not only how to impact themselves, their children, their families, the person that they caused the violence against, but then ultimately, their community,” said Moore.

“The number one thing that gets men’s attention is when I show them how they first of all impact themselves through their violence,” he continued.

His own breakthrough came while incarcerated, during a visit with his own son, who counted the days until they were reunited, and he could freely touch his father’s hand. It also came through reflections on the love of his grandmother. She never drove a car, but had to go miles, then wait in long lines to visit him,” said Moore.

When men join his program, Moore asks them to identify everything they have lost due to their violence. Next, he has them identify what their family and children have lost. Then, he asks them to examine what the person they were violent to lost, and what did their community lose.

“It’s one of the most impactful tools that I’ve used to help men be invested in stopping their own violence,” said Moore.

The men he serves say the biggest thing they need to help make a change is education. Second, they say they need sincere advocates to help hold them accountable.

“Most of the time hurt people hurt people. I often tell the guys the things that happened to you over the course of your life are not your fault, but as an able-bodied adult, it’s your responsibility to get the healing that you need so that you don’t bleed on people that didn’t cut you,” said Moore. “You must temper accountability with compassion, and it’s a delicate dance and you must know when to do which, but both are needed,” he said.

Dr. Aquil Basheer, founder and executive director of the Professional Community Intervention Training Institute (PCITI) – a community-based organization based in Los Angeles – is a certified “violence-intersession, gang-hostility intervention training specialist.”

Basheer has conducted trainings worldwide. Black men who commit acts of domestic violence are attempting to heal themselves, he says.

“When we see traumatized people using what so many of us would consider anti-social means, they’re doing it to get well, using it to try to create some degree of wellness and restoration. Somewhere in the process, they bought into the idea that it was okay,” said Basheer.

According to Basheer, pursuing non-conventional solutions amounts to “thinking systematically.”

“If, in my perception, domestic violence is okay to me, because it creates some degree of wellness and healing for me, I’m going to continue to use it if I have no other options that can give me the same result that the domestic violence is giving me,” Basheer points out.

A key to solving domestic violence is the participation of the whole family in the treatment process, argued Basheer.

The individual cases may differ, and no cookie-cutter approach can be applied, but looking at the root causes, you can find common denominators that help you get to the bottom of the problem among Blacks, Asians, Latinos, and others, Basheer added.

“You’re looking at a perpetuating cycle, where if every individual’s needs and wants are not taken care of, you are going to continue with that broken cycle,” he said.

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Juneteenth Father’s Day for the Formerly Incarcerated

The giveaway was a testament of the Formerly Incarcerated Giving Back to the community in the best way they could. Participants received an array of gifts including clothing, work pants, jeans, socks, toiletries and gift cards. The event gave them a place to identify with other men who have overcome many hardships and now live independently of the direct supervision of the criminal justice system.

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3 days ago

June 30, 2022

Oakland Post

From left to right: Dora Parlor, Richard Johnson and Ayanna Weathers. Photo by Jonathan ‘fitness’ Jones.

By Richard Johnson

The founders of The Formerly Incarcerated Giving Back organization sponsored a Father’s Day celebration event that highlighted a “just serve spirit” which recognized dads who want to “give and serve” their families and communities, that reached over 150 men in deep East Oakland. Fathers from all walks of life, languages and nationalities were in attendance.

The celebration was co-sponsored by several organizations, including the African American Sports and Entertainment Group, (AASEG) headed by Ray Bobbitt, B.O.S.S. Reentry program, and the Reentry, The Post News Group and Violence Prevention programs directed by John Jones III.

The participating fathers were offered counseling and services to cover back rent, rental deposit, utility bills, credit repair and much more.

As fate would have it, one of the Founders of Formerly Incarcerated Giving Back, Mr. Paul Redd, was called home by the Lord. His passing came on Father’s Day. We could never question God’s work when He calls His flock home. Paul will be greatly missed by many who loved, appreciated and respected him greatly. We, the Formerly Incarcerated Giving Back, gave back in our experience our profound condolences to the family. We will certainly continue the work that he helped to establish. Rest in Peace my brother.

To utilize the services of BOSS (Building Opportunities for Self-Sufficiency), please contact John Jones at 510-459-9014. For more information on this activity and future activities, please contact Richard Johnson at fatijohns28@gmail.com.

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Marin, Sonoma, and Mendocino Counties Partner to Create Cleaner Coast

California Coastal beaches and public parks are experiencing rises in visitation year over year as important outlets for mental and physical health. Over 10 million people annually visit the California coastline and adjacent communities across Marin, Sonoma, and Mendocino counties. Even more staggering, over 55,000 pounds of trash were picked up from the sensitive coastal environment across the three counties last year alone.

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4 days ago

June 30, 2022

Oakland Post

“Leave No Trace is thrilled to be working with Marin, Sonoma and Mendocino Counties,” said Dana Watts, executive director of Leave No Trace. “With such diverse natural and cultural resources, we look forward to addressing the key issues in the area. Consistent messaging is crucial because there is no differentiation from visitors on what county they are in when they visit the coastline.”

The Goal: Teach leave no trace practices to growing number of coastal visitors

Courtesy of Marin County

Marin, Sonoma and Mendocino Counties are launching a coordinated campaign to provide visitor education and outreach to reduce the amount of litter and waste in coastal regions and watersheds through a three-County memorandum of understanding (MOU) with the non-profit organization Leave No Trace. The ongoing partnership includes coordination with federal and state agencies, tribal partners, local jurisdictions and land managers, Sonoma County Tourism, and other community-based groups across all three counties.

Beginning later this month, the bilingual campaign will include a broad scope of messaging that will be used by all three counties to educate and influence visitors prior to and during the summer season. Agencies and organizations partnering with the campaign will be able to share the Leave No Trace-based messaging resources in English and Spanish and take advantage of a new stewardship education series, both of which specifically address visitation impact issues taking place along the California coastline.

“COVID-19 pushed more residents outdoors and drew them to the coast as they looked for safe ways to recreate,” said Marin County Supervisor Dennis Rodoni, who initiated the three-County collaboration in 2020. “This stressed our limited visitor-serving infrastructure, creating an overflow of trash and waste like I have never seen before.”

Sonoma County Tourism, the county’s destination stewardship organization, was instrumental in bringing the Leave No Trace organization into the partnership conversation with the three counties. Sonoma County Tourism has worked with Leave No Trace since April 2021 on the Sonoma County Leave No Trace Initiative.

Through its Seven Principles, Leave No Trace provides a framework of minimum impact practices for anyone visiting the outdoors. New education messaging focusing on trash and litter in coastal watersheds is highly relevant due to a surge in visitation to all three counties’ coastlines and adjacent communities. The new education messaging serves to complement existing Leave No Trace and other trash reduction efforts promoted by state, county and local parks officials in all three counties, as well as the Sonoma County Leave No Trace Initiative.

“We had a bit of a head start with the successful launch of our Leave No Trace campaign last year, and we are happy to leverage and coordinate our efforts with our neighbors from the north and south,” said Sonoma County Supervisor Lynda Hopkins. “Visitors don’t stop at county lines, nor does the flow of trash.”

Trash causes major impacts on our enjoyment of creeks, bays and the ocean, and creates significant impacts on aquatic life and habitat in those waters; trash eventually enters the global ocean ecosystem, where plastic persists in the environment for hundreds of years – if not forever.

“We don’t have the resources to launch this effort on our own,” Mendocino County Supervisor Ted Williams noted, “But with the support from our southern neighbors and non-profit partnerships with groups like MendoParks, we are excited to launch this campaign.” Fellow Mendocino County Supervisor Dan Gjerde added, “The key to moving this effort forward was the unanimous decision for all three counties to use a shared MOU and contract with Leave No Trace. We look forward to working together for years to come.”

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Juneteenth ’22: California Legislature Recognizes Reparations Task Force

“The task force, without a doubt, is probably one of the most important task forces not only in the state, but this nation, dealing with the horrors of slavery,” said Sen. Steven Bradford (D-Gardena), chair of the California Legislative Black Caucus (CLBC). “This task force is a reflection of California’s leadership and progressive nature that made a commitment to help bridge racial division and advance equity.”

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4 days ago

June 29, 2022

Oakland Post

While honored by the California Legislature, the California Task Force for Reparations members presented the 483-page, Interim Report to lawmakers of the California Legislature Black Caucus. Shown from left to right are attorney Don Tamaki, Senator Maria Elena Durazo, Assemblywoman Lori Wilson, Sen. Steven Bradford, Sen. Sydney Kamlager, attorney Lisa Holder, Dr. Cheryl Grills, Dr. Rev. Amos Brown, attorney Kamilah Moore, Sen. Nancy Skinner, and Assemblyman Reggie Jones-Sawyer. CBM photo by Antonio Ray Harvey.

By Antonio‌ ‌Ray‌ ‌Harvey‌, California‌ ‌Black‌ ‌Media

Several members of the California Task Force to Study and Develop Reparations Proposals for African Americans received a standing ovation from constituents of the State Legislature last week for their work over the last 12 months.

During the opening of legislative sessions at the State Capitol in Sacramento on June 16, members of the Senate and Assembly participated in the gesture that coincided with the kickoff of the state’s official Juneteenth 2022 commemorations.

Bradford, who was appointed to the task force by Senate President Pro Tem Toni Atkins, made his remarks on the Senate floor after fellow task force panelist Assemblymember Reggie Jones-Sawyer (D-Los Angeles) delivered similar comments in the Assembly chambers.

Seven of the nine task force members and staff from the California Department of Justice (DOJ) were recognized at the event.

Task force members attending the ceremony were Chairperson Kamilah V. Moore, a Los Angeles-based attorney, reparations scholar and activist; Vice Chairman Dr. Amos Brown, a civil rights leader and respected Bay Area pastor whose journey to leadership started under the tutelage of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr in the 1960s; Dr. Cheryl Grills, a professor at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles and Lisa Holder, a nationally recognized trial attorney.

Attorney Don Tamaki, Esq., an attorney best known for his role in the Supreme Court case of Korematsu v. the United States and the only non-Black member of the panel, was also in attendance.

Atkins and Assembly Speaker Anthony Rendon met briefly with the panel.

Task force members Monica Montgomery Steppe, a San Diego Councilmember and Dr. Jovan Scott Lewis, chair of the Department of Geography at the University of California Berkeley, could not make the trip due to prior commitments.

Several members of the CLBC attended the function, which coincided with the passage of resolution in recognition of the Juneteenth holiday in the Assembly.

Assemblymembers Chris Holden (D-Pasadena), Mia Bonta (D-Alameda), Jim Cooper (D-Elk Grove), Lori Wilson (D-Suisun City), Akila Weber (D-La Mesa), Mike Gipson (D-Carson) and CLBC vice-chair Sen. Sydney Kamlager (D-Los Angeles) showed up to support the task force members’ efforts.

The Task Force first convened on June 1, 2021, to conduct an examination of the lasting consequences of discrimination against freed slaves and their descendants.

Under Assembly Bill (AB) 3121, authored by then-Assemblywoman Shirley Weber, who is currently Secretary of State of California, the nine-member panel is charged with making recommendations for how the state can compensate Black Californians who are descendants of enslaved African Americans.

On June 1, the task force released its first interim report, a 483-page document compiled by the California Department of Justice’s Civil Rights Enforcement Section.

“The information in the interim report reveals uncovered facts about incidents that disproportionately and negatively affected Black Californians in California for 170-plus years and the country for the last 400 years,” Grills said.

“Until we have a reckoning with the truth, we cannot understand who we are as a nation. When we then begin to have that kind of reckoning, I think the specific manifestation of the harm will be easier to deal with and we will actually have an opportunity for transformative change,” Grills continued.

Over the next 12 months, Moore told California Black Media (CBM) that the task force will focus on bringing increased awareness for the interim report, community engagement, and formulating a framework of how California should compensate around 2 to 2.6 million Black Californians.

“It’s important that the California Legislature understand how important this effort is,” Moore told CBM. “This past year we’ve been working incredibly hard. The next (12 months) I categorized it as the development stage where the nine-member task force has substantive and intentional conversations about what reparations should look like.”

Video link of Sen. Steven Bradford and Dr. Cheryl Grills at the state capitol in Sacramento: .California Task Force For Reparations at State Capitol 6.16.2022