Entertainment
Reel-ality TV Talk
By Marquesa LaDawn
NNPA Columnist
A Hot Time with the Hotlanta Housewives…
The new RHOA was hot! I loved it when Claudia Jordan gave Shade Queen Nene Leakes, ultimate shade. You see, Nene, has a way of winning arguments by the sheer force of her personality – yelling, screaming, insulting and being a real thug. But Claudia Jordan didn’t go there. As we tell the kids, she used her “inside voice.”She used her words in a classy way resulting in a verbal beat down of Nene. It was amazing to see and timely. You know Nene, she doesn’t like you just because. She’s still a little funny about Cynthia, her long lost friend. Meanwhile, Cynthia is trying to move on but Nene being hangs on to a grudge tightly!
Newcomer Demetria McKinney is a bit too quiet for my taste, but after getting some surprising, unwarranted shade from Phaedra Parks, she bit back. She may hold her own after all. Phaedra called Demetria too old to kick off a singing career and not smart in dealing with her non-committal man, Roger Bob. Initially Demetria held in her frustration, but like most quiet people, the bubbling volcano erupted when least expected. At dinner, Demetria said she was offended by Phaedra’s comments regarding her age, her man and her career. Clearly, she was looking for an apology that was never forthcoming. After Phaedra continued to rationalize her remarks, Demetria snapped, “The only thing we have in common is the number eight – my man has been with me for eight years and your man just went to prison for eight years.” The look on Phaedra’s face was priceless. Score one for the newbie!
Meanwhile, in Beverly Hills…
Personalities are starting to clash. You see, there are two new housewives, Lisa Rinna and Eileen Davidson. At first, I wasn’t impressed with the choices. But, Lisa Rinna is showing realness by putting Brandi Glanville in her place after seeing her throw wine on Eileen just because. Brandi is this wounded bird that never seems to heal. She’s bitter, angry, spiteful and miserable – and those are her good traits! If you’re a RHOBH fan, you could not have missed “Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen,” which comes on right after RHOBH. Well, Brandi was the guest and although she offends the world every time she opens her mouth, when she was offended, she threw a tantrum. You got to see it, to believe it! Other than the Brandi antics, it was a bit of a bore: mothers crying as their daughters go off to college. Blah, blah, blah!
This is what I want to happen next… New housewives usually have it the toughest – it’s like being pledged. I want to know what Lisa Rinna really thinks. She should stop acting and just be. I love her hustler mentality, but the idea of her doing anything for money (her words) makes it hard to believe that I’m seeing the real her. I noticed her time with Lisa Vanderpump was “let me kiss your a**” . That does not work in the housewives world, where they will eat you up raw and spit you out done.
As for new housewife #2, Eileen Davidson, I still have no idea who she is. No offense but I’m a big General Hospital fan and do not watch her soaps. Being a soap fan, I can tell you that what hooks me is a deep character that continues to peel like an onion. If she wants to make it in Reality TV, she’s got to do the same. So far, I am bored. Work on it Eileen or this may be your first and last season.
Turning to the vets of RHOBH, Kim, what’s up with you? You are also making me yawn. Kyle, I like your upgraded style but I think we need your friend Lisa V. to give you an interesting storyline. Yolanda, I must say, you are very interesting. You are kind with a bit of a bad girl flavor at times. Your life is very lush; I loved seeing Babyface singing in your living room. You are willing to share the “not so good” parts of your life, like your daughter getting a DUI and your struggle with Lyme disease, which makes you real. Lisa Vanderpump, what can I say, you will always be TV-worthy, all of the scenes featuring her home are delicious.
The Celebrity Apprentice…
I love this show. It’s about my favorite subject – business. I have to say this cast would not be nearly as interesting without our girls. This week, they went after each other, Brandi called Kenya’s butt fake. Brandi had a meltdown that Kenya laughed about. It was good! Donald Trump is no fool. He knows if he keeps them around, the drama will be at all-time high.
Marquesa LaDawn is a professional business woman who escapes the pressures of living in New York City by retreating into the real world of reality TV.
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Activism
Desmond Gumbs — Visionary Founder, Mentor, and Builder of Opportunity
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
Special to the Post
For more than 25 years, Desmond Gumbs has been a cornerstone of Bay Area education and athletics — not simply as a coach, but as a mentor, founder, and architect of opportunity. While recent media narratives have focused narrowly on challenges, they fail to capture the far more important truth: Gumbs’ life’s work has been dedicated to building pathways to college, character, and long-term success for hundreds of young people.
A Career Defined by Impact
Gumbs’ coaching and leadership journey spans from Bishop O’Dowd High School, Oakland High School, Stellar Prep High School. Over the decades, hundreds of his students have gone on to college, earning academic and athletic scholarships and developing life skills that extend well beyond sports.
One of his most enduring contributions is his role as founder of Stellar Prep High School, a non-traditional, mission-driven institution created to serve students who needed additional structure, belief, and opportunity. Through Stellar Prep numerous students have advanced to college — many with scholarships — demonstrating Gumbs’ deep commitment to education as the foundation for athletic and personal success.

NCAA football history was made this year when Head Coach from
Mississippi Valley State, Terrell Buckley and Head Coach Desmond
Gumbs both had starting kickers that were women. This picture was
taken after the game.
A Personal Testament to the Mission: Addison Gumbs
Perhaps no example better reflects Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy than the journey of his son, Addison Gumbs. Addison became an Army All-American, one of the highest honors in high school football — and notably, the last Army All-Americans produced by the Bay Area, alongside Najee Harris.
Both young men went on to compete at the highest levels of college football — Addison Gumbs at the University of Oklahoma, and Najee Harris at the University of Alabama — representing the Bay Area on a national level.
Building Lincoln University Athletics From the Ground Up
In 2021, Gumbs accepted one of the most difficult challenges in college athletics: launching an entire athletics department at Lincoln University in Oakland from scratch. With no established infrastructure, limited facilities, and eventually the loss of key financial aid resources, he nonetheless built opportunities where none existed.
Under his leadership, Lincoln University introduced:
- Football
- Men’s and Women’s Basketball
- Men’s and Women’s Soccer
Operating as an independent program with no capital and no conference safety net, Gumbs was forced to innovate — finding ways to sustain teams, schedule competition, and keep student-athletes enrolled and progressing toward degrees. The work was never about comfort; it was about access.
Voices That Reflect His Impact
Desmond Gumbs’ philosophy has been consistently reflected in his own published words:
- “if you have an idea, you’re 75% there the remaining 25% is actually doing it.”
- “This generation doesn’t respect the title — they respect the person.”
- “Greatness is a habit, not a moment.”
Former players and community members have echoed similar sentiments in public commentary, crediting Gumbs with teaching them leadership, accountability, confidence, and belief in themselves — lessons that outlast any single season.
Context Matters More Than Headlines
Recent articles critical of Lincoln University athletics focus on logistical and financial hardships while ignoring the reality of building a new program with limited resources in one of the most expensive regions in the country. Such narratives are ultimately harmful and incomplete, failing to recognize the courage it takes to create opportunity instead of walking away when conditions are difficult.
The real story is not about early struggles — it is about vision, resilience, and service.
A Legacy That Endures
From founding Stellar PREP High School, to sending hundreds of students to college, to producing elite athletes like Addison Gumbs, to launching Lincoln University athletics, Desmond Gumbs’ legacy is one of belief in young people and relentless commitment to opportunity.
His work cannot be reduced to headlines or records. It lives on in degrees earned, scholarships secured, leaders developed, and futures changed — across the Bay Area and beyond.
Advice
COMMENTARY: If You Don’t Want Your ‘Black Card’ Revoked, Watch What You Bring to Holiday Dinners
From Thanksgiving to Christmas to New Year’s Day, whether it’s the dining room table or the bid whist (Spades? Uno, anyone?) table, your card may be in danger.
By Wanda Ravernell
Post Staff
From the fourth week of November to the first week in January, if you are of African descent, but particularly African American, certain violations of cultural etiquette will get your ‘Black card’ revoked.
From Thanksgiving to Christmas to New Year’s Day, whether it’s the dining room table or the bid whist (Spades? Uno, anyone?) table, your card may be in danger.
It could take until Super Bowl Sunday for reinstatement.
I don’t know much about the card table, but for years I was on probation by the ‘Aunties,’ the givers and takers of Black cards.
How I Got into Trouble
It was 1970-something and I was influenced by the health food movement that emerged from the hippie era. A vegetarian (which was then considered sacrilegious by most Black people I knew) prepared me a simple meal: grated cheese over steamed broccoli, lentils, and brown rice.
I introduced the broccoli dish at the Friday night supper with my aunt and grandfather. She pronounced the bright green broccoli undone, but she ate it. (I did not, of course, try brown rice on them.)
I knew that I would be allowed back in the kitchen when she attempted the dish, but the broccoli had been cooked to death. (Y’all remember when ALL vegetables, not just greens, were cooked to mush?)
My Black card, which had been revoked was then reattained because they ate what I prepared and imitated it.
Over the decades, various transgressions have become normalized. I remember when having a smoked turkey neck instead of a ham hock in collard greens was greeted with mumblings and murmurings at both the dining room and card tables. Then came vegan versions with just olive oil (What? No Crisco? No bacon, at least?) and garlic. And now my husband stir fries his collards in a wok.
But No Matter How Things Have Changed…
At holiday meals, there are assigned tasks. Uncle Jack chopped raw onions when needed. Uncle Buddy made the fruit salad for Easter. My mother brought the greens in winter, macaroni salad in summer. Aunt Deanie did the macaroni and cheese, and the great aunts, my deceased grandmother’s sisters, oversaw the preparation of the roast beef, turkey, and ham. My father, if he were present, did the carving.
These designations/assignments were binding agreements that could stand up in a court of law. Do not violate the law of assignments by bringing some other version of a tried-and-true dish, even if you call it a new ‘cheese and noodle item’ to ‘try out.’ The auntie lawgivers know what you are trying to do. It’s called a menu coup d’état, and they are not having it.
The time for experiments is in your own home: your spouse and kids are the Guinea pigs.
My mother’s variation of a classic that I detested from that Sunday to the present was adding crushed pineapple to mashed sweet potatoes. A relative stops by, tries it, and then it can be introduced as an add-on to the standard holiday menu.
My Aunt Vivian’s concoctions from Good Housekeeping or Ladies’ Home Journal magazine also made it to the Black people’s tables all over the country in the form of a green bean casserole.
What Not to Do and How Did It Cross Your Mind?
People are, of all things holy, preparing mac ‘n’ cheese with so much sugar it tastes like custard with noodles in it.
Also showing up in the wrong places: raisins. Raisins have been reported in the stuffing (makes no sense unless it’s in a ‘sweet meats’ dish), in a pan of corn bread, and – heresy in the Black kitchen – the MAC ‘n’ CHEESE.
These are not mere allegations: There is photographic evidence of these Black card violations, but I don’t want to defame witnesses who remained present at the scene of the crimes.
The cook – bless his/her heart – was probably well-meaning, if ignorant. Maybe they got the idea from a social media influencer, much like Aunt Viv got recipes from magazines.
Thankfully, a long-winded blessing of the food at the table can give the wary attendee time to locate the oddity’s place on the table and plan accordingly.
But who knows? Innovation always prevails, for, as the old folks say, ‘waste makes want.’ What if the leftovers were cut up, dipped in breadcrumbs and deep fried? The next day, that dish might make it to the TV tray by the card table.
An older cousin – on her way to being an Auntie – in her bonnet, leggings, T-shirt, and bunny slippers and too tired to object, might try it and like it….
And if she ‘rubs your head’ after eating it, the new dish might be a winner and (Whew!) everybody, thanks God, keeps their Black cards.
Until the next time.
Arts and Culture
Fayeth Gardens Holds 3rd Annual Kwanzaa Celebration at Hayward City Hall on Dec. 28
Kwanzaa celebrates seven principles – Nguzu Saba – that support an ideal of community, beginning from Dec. 26 to Jan. 1. Those principles, in Swahili, are: Umoja (Unity), Kujichagulia (Self-Determination), Ujima (Collective Work & Responsibility), Ujamaa (Collective Economics), Nia (Purpose), Kuumba (Creativity) and Imani (Faith).
Entertainment, vendors, and special honors for Sankofa Lifetime Achievement awardees
Special to The Post
Celebrating Ujima, the principle of ‘Collective Work and Responsibility,’ Fayeth Gardens’ 3rd Annual Kwanzaa Celebration will be held on Dec. 28, from 12 noon to 5 p.m.
Kwanzaa celebrates seven principles – Nguzu Saba – that support an ideal of community, beginning from Dec. 26 to Jan. 1.
Those principles, in Swahili, are: Umoja (Unity), Kujichagulia (Self-Determination), Ujima (Collective Work & Responsibility), Ujamaa (Collective Economics), Nia (Purpose), Kuumba (Creativity) and Imani (Faith).
The free event at Hayward City Hall at 777 B St. will feature live entertainment, a guest speaker, awards for community activists whose work reflects the principle of Ujima, vendors and an honoring of the ancestors by Awon Ohun Omnira (Voices of Freedom).
On stage will be the Touch of Class Band, a New Orleans Second-Line Band, and the California Griot Storytellers. Bring the children to have fun in the Kids Korner.
Velda Goe, who has been celebrating Kwanzaa since it started in the 1960s, noticed there was no public celebration of the holiday in Hayward when she moved to the city in 2008.
“I started it a couple of years ago,” she said, “and hopefully it will continue just like the cultural events by other nationalities (in Hayward). The Afro-descendent people of Hayward deserve cultural recognition as well.”
Goe also believes it’s important that Kwanzaa gets its due because “there are so many misconceptions,” particularly by people of other nationalities, who are under the impression “that Kwanzaa is a cult, a religion, or replaces Christmas.”
The celebration, which is open to all, can have the effect of helping guests see that Kwanzaa’a principles and purpose are common to all
This year’s Sankofa Lifetime Awardees are:
- Mrs. Freddye M. Davis: President of the South Hayward NAACP
•Baba Arnold X.C. Perkins: Co-founder of the Brotherhood of Elders
•Frederick Jordan,: Legendary founder of F.E. Jordan & Associates and the Design Engineer for the Charles P. Howard Container Terminal at the Port of Oakland + 1,000 Projects
Come dressed up in your best African wear to enter a raffle for a prize for best-dressed Afrocentric King and Queen.A free, healthy soul food lunch is available with an Eventbrite ticket, which can be found at for free lunch is available from for 11:30 to 12 p.m.
In its third year, the event is the brainchild of Velda Goe, founder of Fayeth Gardens, a community planting site to educate and provide a means for urban dwellers to grow healthy food for their families and develop life-sustaining eating habits.
Interested in being a vendor, volunteer, or sponsor? Reach out to FayethGardens@gmail.com
For tickets, go to: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/fayeth-gardens-3rd-annual-kwanzaa-celebration-at-hayward-city-hall-tickets-1974966953322
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