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Commentary: Strength is Spelled with a ‘W’ for Woman

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By Frederick Howard, Student at Laney College, Oakland

I have come to believe the word strength is not spelled with the letter “S” but rather with the letter “W” as in woman.

I did not come to this observation by chance, but it is based on the realization of watching the women in my life demonstrate strength. Often, these women at the time of their greatest strength felt they were weak or too passive, but in actuality, they were stronger than the ones were trying to dominate them.

The first woman to start me on the road to recognizing a woman’s inner strength was my mom –Marsha Howard. She demonstrated the quality of being strong in many different ways.

My dad was a very abusive spouse and an alcoholic who never felt any real remorse for beating his wife or his kids. So for the first 10 years of my life, my mom humbled herself and tried to conform to the idea of the “perfect wife” my dad had in mind.

According to the stereotype, a perfect wife never talked back, always had a hot meal on the table and never acknowledged any other men. She walked with her head down and only spoke when she was spoken to.

She was abused mentally and physically.

My mother’s case is not unusual. In fact, the Chicago Women’s Foundation cites recent testimony given to the U.S. House of Representatives that most women try to conform to their abuser because they “are ashamed and believe that the violence (the beating, rape or the various forms of abuse) are their fault.”

In the same way, because of my mom’s upbringing, she could not seek the help she needed.

My mom’s ability to humble herself to the will of a domineering, self-centered, egotistical, and abusive man changed her and changed our family. During this time, my mom sacrificed and showed an inner strength that I believe is unique to women.

See, I believe women have the ability to give mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally to any person, place or thing they desire without ever receiving anything in return – sometimes knowing their efforts will not be reciprocated.

Even though most women know the object of their affections could never match their love, dedication or loyalty, they are willing to give and put out, many of them stay – until they have had enough.

After eight years of constant beatings and terror, my mom’s inner strength transformed into physical strength. My dad was 5’11” and 190 pounds, and driven by alcohol. My mom was 5’1”, 110 pounds and driven by a desire to protect her kids.

For two years, a battle raged in the home where each claimed the right to supremacy. Taking all the pain and anger my dad inflicted on her while trying to fight an enemy she still loved, my mom showed an ability to finally stand up for herself – something she wasn’t taught growing up.

Even though my mom was battling the enemy, she knew, win or lose, she’d be hurting someone she loved (my father, or the family).

There is an epidemic of women around the world, like my mom, who are being controlled, abused and terrorized with no end in sight. By coming to understand who they truly are and what kind of inner strength they possess, I believe women can realize that being strong sometimes means letting go.

Only through an awareness of self can women find it within themselves to walk away. My mom, Ms. Howard, won the battle and overcame the violence, but the fact remains that many women don’t overcome it.

My mom proved to her children that the strength of a woman lies inside of herself.

 

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State Ed Chief Tony Thurmond Pushes Bill to Train Educators

State Superintendent of Public Instruction (SSPI) Tony Thurmond is advocating for comprehensive training for teachers in reading and math, emphasizing the urgent need to improve student academic outcomes across California. On April 24, during testimony in the Senate Education Committee, Thurmond backed Senate Bill (SB)1115, which aims to provide evidence-backed educator training. The committee passed the bill with a 7-0 vote.

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California State Superintendent of Public Instruction Tony Thurmond.
California State Superintendent of Public Instruction Tony Thurmond.

By California Black Media

State Superintendent of Public Instruction (SSPI) Tony Thurmond is advocating for comprehensive training for teachers in reading and math, emphasizing the urgent need to improve student academic outcomes across California.

On April 24, during testimony in the Senate Education Committee, Thurmond backed Senate Bill (SB)1115, which aims to provide evidence-backed educator training. The committee passed the bill with a 7-0 vote.

Thurmond pointed out to the committee that existing funding for educator training in literacy and math only covers about one-third of California’s educator workforce. SB 1115, Thurmond said, would fund the remaining two-thirds.

“This is an issue of moral clarity,” according to Thurmond. “In the fifth-largest economy in the world, and in an age when we have access to substantial brain science about how students learn, it should be unacceptable to train only some educators in the best strategies to teach essential skills.”

SB 1115 incorporates multiple research-backed methods, including phonics, and it aligns with the California ELA/ELD Framework, which encourages biliteracy and multilingualism.

Thurmond emphasized the moral imperative behind the push for enhanced training by noting that 70% of incarcerated adults struggle with reading or are illiterate.

“Every child should feel supported as they learn to read and every teacher should feel confident in their ability to support students’ foundational literacy,” Thurmond said. “SB 1115 is about ensuring that all children have the opportunity to read by third grade, and that all children have a shot at the life-changing outcomes that come from early literacy.”

The next step for SB 1115 is a hearing in the Senate Appropriations Committee on May 6.

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Opinion: Lessons for Current Student Protesters From a San Francisco State Strike Veteran

How the nation’s first College of Ethnic studies came about, bringing together Latino, African American and Asian American disciplines may offer some clues as to how to ease the current turmoil on American college campuses over the Israel-Hamas war. After the deadline passed to end the Columbia University encampment by 2 p.m. Monday, student protesters blockaded and occupied Hamilton Hall in a symbolic move early Tuesday morning. Protesters did the same in 1968.

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By Emil Guillermo

How the nation’s first College of Ethnic studies came about, bringing together Latino, African American and Asian American disciplines may offer some clues as to how to ease the current turmoil on American college campuses over the Israel-Hamas war.

After the deadline passed to end the Columbia University encampment by 2 p.m. Monday, student protesters blockaded and occupied Hamilton Hall in a symbolic move early Tuesday morning.

Protesters did the same in 1968.

That made me think of San Francisco State University, 1968.

The news was filled with call backs to practically every student protest in the past six decades as arrests mounted into hundreds on nearly two dozen campuses around the country.

In 1970, the protests at Kent State were over the Vietnam War. Ohio National Guardsmen came in, opened fire, and killed four students.

Less than two weeks later that year, civil rights activists outside a dormitory at Jackson State were confronted by armed police. Two African American students were killed, twelve injured.

But again, I didn’t hear anyone mention San Francisco State University, 1968.

That protest addressed all the issues of the day and more. The student strike at SFSU was against the Vietnam war.

That final goal was eventually achieved, but there was violence, sparked mostly by “outside agitators,” who were confronted by police.

“People used the term ‘off the pigs’ but it was more rally rhetoric than a call to action (to actually kill police),” said Daniel Phil Gonzales, who was one of the strikers in 1968.

Gonzales, known as the go-to resource among Filipino American scholars for decades, went on to teach at what was the positive outcome of the strike, San Francisco State University’s College of Ethnic Studies. It’s believed to be the first of its kind in the nation. Gonzales recently retired after more than 50 years as professor.

As for today’s protests, Gonzales is dismayed that the students have constantly dealt with charges of antisemitism.

“It stymies conversation and encourages further polarization and the possibility of violent confrontation,” he said. “You’re going to be labeled pro-Hamas or pro-terrorist.”

That’s happening now. But we forget we are dealing not with Hamas proxies. We are dealing with students.

Gonzales said that was a key lesson at SF State’s strike. The main coalition driving the strike was aided by self-policing from inside of the movement. “That’s very difficult to maintain. Once you start this kind of activity, you don’t know who’s going to join,” he said.

Gonzales believes that in the current situation, there is a patch of humanity, common ground, where one can be both pro-Palestine and pro-Israel. He said it’s made difficult if you stand against the belligerent policies of Benjamin Netanyahu. In that case, you’re likely to be labeled antisemitic.

Despite that, Gonzales is in solidarity with the protesters and the people of Gaza, generally. Not Hamas. And he sees how most of the young people protesting are in shock at what he called the “duration of the absolute inhumane kind of persecution and prosecution of the Palestinians carried out by the Israeli government.”

As a survivor of campus protest decades ago, Gonzales offered some advice to the student protesters of 2024.

“You have to have a definable goal, but right now the path to that goal is unclear,” he said.

About the Author

Emil Guillermo is a journalist and commentator. A veteran newsman in TV and print, he is a former host of NPR’s “All Things Considered.”

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Obituary: Former California Education Superintendent Delaine Eastin Passes at 76

Delaine Eastin, who served as a former state Assemblymember representing parts of Santa Clara and Alameda County — and the first woman elected as State Superintendent of Public Instruction — died at age 76 on April 23. Eastin passed away from complications caused by a stroke.

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Former California Education Superintendent Delaine Eastin.

By California Black Media

Delaine Eastin, who served as a former state Assemblymember representing parts of Santa Clara and Alameda County — and the first woman elected as State Superintendent of Public Instruction — died at age 76 on April 23.

Eastin passed away from complications caused by a stroke.

Known for her power of persuasion, Eastin used her influence to be a champion for bipartisan issues that helped raise academic standards, lower class sizes, and emphasize the importance of conserving nature and the environment in schools.

Former Assembly Speaker Willie Brown and fellow legislative colleagues said that Eastin was in demand on the speech circuit while serving as a legislator.

“Few could engender the kind of emotion and passion she delivered in every speech,” Brown said.

State superintendent Tony Thurmond called Eastin a trailblazer who inspired fellow public servants.

“California lost an icon in our school system today. Delaine Eastin’s legacy as a trailblazer in public education will forever inspire us. Her unwavering dedication to California students — from championing Universal Preschool and the “A Garden in Every School” program to honoring our educators by establishing the California Teachers of the Year Awards — has left an indelible mark on our state’s educational landscape,” said Thurmond.

Thurmond honored Eastin’s legacy at the California Teacher of the Year Program, an honor that she established during her time as superintendent.

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