You Had Me At Hello: Love Lessons from Barack and Michelle Obama
BIRMINGHAM TIMES — Barack has shared that he relied heavily on Michelle’s judgment and honesty throughout his political career, calling her his closest adviser and toughest critic. Michelle was a strong support system for Barack, even in his earliest political campaigns. During his Illinois State Senate campaigns, she was a sounding board and trusted adviser, all while maintaining her own demanding career and family responsibilities.
Former first lady Michelle Obama delivered a loving and heartfelt tribute to her husband on Thursday at the Obama Presidential Center’s grand opening ceremony in Chicago. Her words brought President Barack Obama to tears.
“You told me all those years ago that you couldn’t promise me the world, but you could promise me an interesting life,” she said, “and of course you outdid yourself and managed to give me both.”
Though the lives of Barack and Michelle Obama have been anything but ordinary, their love story teaches everyday lessons valuable to any couple.
How Barack Met Michelle
Long before he became president, Barack Obama was simply a young lawyer trying to convince a smart, ambitious woman named Michelle Robinson to go on a date. The two met in 1989 at the Chicago law firm Sidley & Austin. Michelle was assigned to mentor Barack, who was a summer associate while attending Harvard Law School. Because she was his adviser at the firm, Michelle initially resisted Barack’s attempts to date her. But eventually he won her over. For their first date, the couple had lunch at the Art Institute of Chicago and ice cream at a nearby Baskin-Robbins. They walked through the city and later went to see Spike Lee’s Do the Right Thing.
Two years after their first date, they got engaged at Gordon’s restaurant in Chicago just after Barack passed the bar exam.
Barack and Michelle married on Oct. 3, 1992. Their reception was held at the South Shore Cultural Center. For their honeymoon, they took a trip along the California coast.
They welcomed their first child, Malia, on July 4, 1998. Their second daughter, Sasha, was born on July 10, 2001.
A Strong Support System
Barack has shared that he relied heavily on Michelle’s judgment and honesty throughout his political career, calling her his closest adviser and toughest critic. Michelle was a strong support system for Barack, even in his earliest political campaigns. During his Illinois State Senate campaigns, she was a sounding board and trusted adviser, all while maintaining her own demanding career and family responsibilities.
During Barack’s 2008 Presidential Campaign, Michelle traveled extensively, speaking at rallies and campaign events nationwide. Her stories about their family life helped to endear Barack to voters.
During his presidency, Michelle became one of the administration’s most popular public figures. Through initiatives such as Let’s Move!, support for military families, and higher education programs, she helped advance the administration’s goals and priorities.
In 2011, in an interview on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Barack credited Michelle for his success.
“Obviously, I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done without Michelle,” he told Oprah Winfrey. “Not only has she been a great first lady, she is just my rock. I count on her in so many ways every single day.”
During Barrack Obama’s presidency, Michelle Obama became one of the administration’s most popular public figures. (Obama.org)
Friends First
In that same interview, Michelle stressed the importance of a partnership built on mutual respect.
“It has to be a true partnership, and you have to really, really like and respect the person you’re married to, because it is a hard road.”
Both Barack and Michelle have spoken about the importance of friendship in marriage. “For the past 25 years, you’ve not only been my wife and the mother of my children, you’ve been my best friend,” President Obama said during his farewell speech on Jan. 10, 2017 at McCormick Place convention center in Chicago.
Being friends also means having fun and laughing together.
“In our house, we don’t take ourselves too seriously, and laughter is the best form of unity, I think, in a marriage,” Michelle said in an interview on “Live! With Regis and Kelly” in 2011.
Navigating Tough Times
While many see the Obamas as #couplegoals, they’ve been open about the hardships they’ve faced over the years and honest about relying on counseling and communication to get through tough times.
In 2022, on the Revolt x Michelle Obama special hosted by Angie Martinez, Michelle spoke candidly about the frustrations of early marriage, especially just after their children were born.
“There were 10 years where I couldn’t stand my husband,” she said. “And guess when it happened? When those kids were little.”
She said things improved when she realized “marriage isn’t 50-50, ever.”
In 2024, while speaking with host Jay Shetty on the On Purpose podcast, Michelle said she wanted to normalize discussing the “natural, understandable rough patches” in marriages that make people “want to quit.”
Learning to forge ahead in the face of challenges is what leads to long-lasting love, she said.
“You don’t quit on it, you learn from it,” Michelle said. “That’s what sustaining a relationship is — it’s the choice to figure it out, not quit, when it gets hard.”
Sources: Elle.com and Obama.org
Built to Last: Share Your Love Story
What does lasting love look like? Maybe it’s handwritten notes tucked into lunch bags, dancing in the kitchen after a long day, praying together through hard seasons, or simply choosing each other again and again over the years. Whatever your story looks like, we want to hear it.
For years, the Birmingham Times has celebrated local couples and the love that binds them through our popular “You Had Me at Hello” column. Now, we’re looking for more inspiring stories of commitment, partnership, laughter, resilience, and romance.
Have you been married seven years or longer? Tell us the secret to your enduring love. No relationship is ordinary, and every couple has a story worth sharing. Your journey could encourage newlyweds, inspire singles, or remind readers that lasting love still exists.
Whether your love story began with a blind date, a high school romance, a chance encounter, or a friendship that grew into forever, we’d love to feature it.
To be considered for a future “You Had Me at Hello” column or to nominate a couple you admire, email editor@birminghamtimes.com with the couple’s names, contact information, and the number of years they’ve been married.
Jackie Wright Champions Bay Area Stories, Filmmakers and Cultural Institutions
As an award-winning communications professional, Wright has worked with corporations, nonprofits, government agencies, educational institutions, artists, and community organizations. In 2026, she expanded that work by launching an introductory public relations class for small businesses and nonprofits, offering practical tools for gaining visibility, shaping messages and building productive relationships with the media.
Jackie Wright has spent more than two decades helping people, organizations and communities understand the power of a well-told story.
As founder and president of Wright Enterprises, a San Francisco-based strategic communications and public affairs firm, Wright has built a career spanning journalism, public relations, media relations, crisis communications, community engagement and multimedia storytelling.
As an award-winning communications professional, Wright has worked with corporations, nonprofits, government agencies, educational institutions, artists, and community organizations. In 2026, she expanded that work by launching an introductory public relations class for small businesses and nonprofits, offering practical tools for gaining visibility, shaping messages and building productive relationships with the media.
Wright’s commitment to storytelling is also deeply personal. She wrote and co-directed the 15-minute documentary, “Love Separated in Life…Love Reunited in Honor,” which chronicles the story of her parents, Specialist Five (S5 Wyley Wright Jr. and Ouida Fay McClendon Wright. Her father, a U.S. Army helicopter crew chief, died in Vietnam in 1964 while serving as an honor guard during a visit by then-Secretary of Defense Robert McNamara. Decades later, Wright and her siblings had their father exhumed from a segregated cemetery in Jacksonville, Florida, and their mother moved from her burial place in Georgia so the couple could be reunited at Arlington National Cemetery in 2014.
The family journey later took Wright and her sister to Vietnam, where they discovered the former military compound that had been named in honor of their father and another fallen soldier. The documentary, centered on love, war, family, racial understanding, and remembrance, earned festival recognition at screenings.
“It was quite an honor to learn about my family’s history and share it on film,” said Wright.
That filmmaking experience complements Wright’s longstanding advocacy for independent cinema. She has served as a media partner and brand ambassador for Bay Area film festivals, including the San Francisco Black Film Festival, Oakland International Film Festival, and the Durban International Film Festival in South Africa.
“It’s important to help filmmakers and underrepresented stories reach broader audiences,” said Wright.
Whether promoting a neighborhood organization, championing an independent filmmaker or preserving her own family history, Wright has remained consistent. Through Wright Enterprises, she has turned communications into both a profession and a form of community service, telling stories that might otherwise go unheard.
“Our stories are an integral part of our history, and our history is not only American history, but worldwide,” she said.
Chef Sharon Lee Blends Culinary Excellence, Education and Empowerment
Lee’s professional training took her to New Orleans, where she worked at Restaurant August and expanded her knowledge of Cajun, Creole, and French cuisine under the guidance of internationally recognized chef John Besh. When she returned to San Francisco, Lee was part of the kitchen staff that helped reopen the remodeled Cliff House at Ocean Beach.
For Chef Sharon Lee, the kitchen has never been just a place to prepare meals. It has been a classroom, a workplace, a training ground and a doorway to opportunity.
The San Francisco chef, culinary educator and owner of The Spot! Fine Catering Services has spent more than two decades building a career that blends professional cooking with community service.
Now, Lee is expanding that mission through culinary workforce training and plans to launch a culinary academy that would provide underserved youth and adults with a pathway into the food and hospitality industries. Lee’s passion for cooking began in her mother’s kitchen; however, she built a thriving barbering business before graduating from the California Culinary Academy in San Francisco, where she completed the Cordon Bleu program with an associate degree in operations.
“At some point I wanted to try something new, and I have wonderful memories of helping my mother in the kitchen,” said Lee.
Lee’s professional training took her to New Orleans, where she worked at Restaurant August and expanded her knowledge of Cajun, Creole, and French cuisine under the guidance of internationally recognized chef John Besh. When she returned to San Francisco, Lee was part of the kitchen staff that helped reopen the remodeled Cliff House at Ocean Beach.
Those experiences helped shape the culinary style she later brought to The Spot! Fine Catering Services, which she founded in 2003.
“I have cooking specialties, but I can also cook Italian, soul food, and many foods inspired by different cultures.”
Along the way, Lee strengthened her business and operational skills by working with Paula LeDuc Fine Catering and Levy Restaurants, as well as venues such as the Oakland Arena and Coliseum, Chase Center, and Moscone Convention Center.
As a culinary department head with the San Francisco Unified School District, she directed enrichment programming for high school juniors and seniors, designing curriculum, field trips and health education seminars. She also created a pilot culinary and nutrition program through the University of San Francisco’s Upward Bound Program, teaching college-bound students healthy cooking through a garden-to-table model.
Her community work has included youth culinary education through Big Moma House, food safety and kitchen fundamentals through the Holiday Apron & Hat Program, reentry and job-readiness training through Black Owned Project 365, and culinary instruction for formerly incarcerated men through the Black Cultural Zone in East Oakland.
In her spare time, Lee enjoys feeding her friends, family, and the homeless in the community.
Lee also hosts culinary cohorts to help underserved participants develop practical skills needed to enter the workforce as prep cooks.
Her long-term vision is to build a culinary academy that brings those experiences together under one roof. Lee wants the academy to provide students with more than cooking lessons. Her goal is to teach employable skills, discipline, confidence, and the business knowledge needed to move from an entry-level kitchen position into careers in catering, hospitality, food service management, or entrepreneurship.
For Lee, the recipe is simple.
“It’s all about the next generation and making sure they have the skills and a level of preparation to build a viable career, a good life, and always help others on your journey,” she said.
Chef Sharon Lee will be a guest vendor at the 11th Annual Black-Eyed Pea Festival on Sept. 12 with the Freedom Farmer’s Market at 4521 Telegraph Ave. in Oakland from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.