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Commentary: Tips for Staying Safe (Emotionally) as Pandemic Drags On

The ongoing COVID-19 pandemic and the Delta variant have fundamentally changed many of our lives, the way we live and the manner in which we interact with each other, and how we live, work and play together.   

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Many of us are tired, stressed and impatient having to live our lives under this seemingly never-ending pandemic. 

In early spring, many of us were hopeful that COVID-19 was coming to an end.  We began making plans for the summer, from visiting family and friends to attending concerts, plays, planning for vacations and special milestones, and basically “just returning to normal life activities.”  

However, as life would have it, the Delta variant appeared. We were again confronted with the inability to control most aspects of our lives.  In fact, most recently, scientists have purported that we may expect additional variants for years to come.

According to the California Department of Public Health, in February 2021, only 2% of Black Californians were vaccinated. However, as of October 5, 4.2 % of all Black Californians have received at least one dose of vaccine. Representing about 6 % of California’s overall population, we as a community remain behind on our vaccination rate.   

The ongoing COVID-19 pandemic and the Delta variant have fundamentally changed many of our lives, the way we live and the manner in which we interact with each other, and how we live, work and play together.   

This pandemic has reinforced that there are so many aspects of our lives that we cannot control. And anytime we cannot control our lives and/or our environment, we tend to feel helpless which leads to anxiety and possibly depression.  

So, what can a person do, when life does not go as you planned and are impatient for this pandemic to end?  Here are some tips that have been recommended by the experts:

  1. I know this might sound cliché, but recognizing and understanding your feelings, whether you are sad, angry, stressed, or frightened. Accept, do not negate, how you feel.  
  2. The ability to bounce back and adapt to difficult situations is crucial to wellness.  You have to believe in yourself, your ability to be strong and to try your best – relying on various proven self-care methods — to stay positive.
  3. Try having an attitude of gratitude.  Think about just a few little things or events that are going well in your life daily and in the life of your family and friends.
  4. When you feel overwhelmed…. just breathe…Yes, literally, just breathe in through your nose, hold it and exhale through your mouth a few times or meditate by remembering a verse, phrase, poem, or visualizing a tranquil place for just a few seconds. Still yourself.   
  5. Look back on the good times that you have had and treasure those memories.
  6. Plan a reasonably safe event you can look forward to in the near future that will bring you joy or fulfillment. 
  7. Stop thinking negative.  It’s difficult when life feels as if it’s spiraling out of control but find ways to prove that your negative thoughts are either wrong or that the sky will not fall.  Remind yourself that life and circumstances can and do change.  Turn those negative thoughts into positive affirmations.  Have faith and confidence. 
  8. With so many things going on that are out of our control and often make us feel helpless, focus on what you CAN control in your life.  
  1. Take care of yourself. Exercise, even walking 20 minutes a day, eating healthy, sleep on a regular schedule, turn off electronic devises at least one hour before bed, avoid alcohol and substance use, especially before bedtime, connect with community or faith-based organizations, and/or reach out to your local mental health provider, employee assistance program.

Lenore A. Tate, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Sacramento, California. She specializes in neuropsychology, behavioral health and geriatrics.

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Why Peace on Earth Begins with Birth, a Q&A with Midwife Nikki Helms

In this Q&A with California Black Media, Helms reflects on what it would take to truly improve birthing services in the United States, why midwifery must be fully integrated into the healthcare system, and how trauma, safety and community shape birth experiences across a lifetime. Drawing on her clinical expertise and lived experience, Helms shares insights on building supportive birth environments, paying for care, and what every parent and baby deserves for a healthy start.

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Nikki Helms is a midwife and full-spectrum birthing care advocate.
Nikki Helms is a midwife and full-spectrum birthing care advocate.

By Amanda Kim, California Black Media

Midwife and full-spectrum birthing care advocate Nikki Helms has spent nearly two decades supporting families through pregnancy, birth and the often-overlooked postpartum period in California.

A Certified Professional Midwife, lactation educator, and DONA-and CAPPA-trained labor and postpartum doula, Helms is known for her deeply personalized, in-home education, her community-centered workshops, and her unwavering belief that evidence-based care and informed consent are essential to healthy outcomes for parents and babies. As the founder of the San Diego Birth Center, she has helped create a welcoming, home-like alternative to hospital birth — one rooted in continuity of care, trDAt and deep listening.

In this Q&A with California Black Media, Helms reflects on what it would take to truly improve birthing services in the United States, why midwifery must be fully integrated into the healthcare system, and how trauma, safety and community shape birth experiences across a lifetime. Drawing on her clinical expertise and lived experience, Helms shares insights on building supportive birth environments, paying for care, and what every parent and baby deserves for a healthy start.

What is the one thing we could do to improve birthing services in the U.S.?

We need to integrate well-trained, super-experienced, certified professional midwives fully into the healthcare system. Over the last century, the medical community has excluded, and in some states, banned midwifery, which has impacted Black parents and babies the most and limited safe choices. Today, the U.S. spends more money than any other developed nation on maternity care with some of the worst outcomes — for Black families especially. The integration of professional midwives is long overdue.

What does a midwife do?

There are several types. I’m a certified professional midwife and founder of a birth center. But there are also midwives who come to your home, educators, lactation consultants, doulas who provide support and advocacy, and monitrices, who have clinical training and can support the mother before and after the birth.

How are birth centers and midwifery services different from traditional care?

A lot of people feel more at home in a birth center. They are often colorful, inviting, simple, and calm. People also feel more at home because we’ve supported them from six weeks into their pregnancy to six weeks after the birth. That’s nearly a year, so we’ve gotten to know them and understand their lives. This wonderful continuity can help us identify subtle issues later on, especially postpartum. A team of three midwives will always pick up on cues.

As a midwife, what does this work mean to you?

This work just fills my soul. It empties me out completely and fills me. It’s the look on someone’s face after their baby has been born. They are filled with an amazing clarity and a look that says, “I did it.” And I can say, “Yes, you did, and I’m not surprised at all because I believe in you to the depths of my soul.”

After helping so many parents and babies, how has this work changed you?

I often think that peace on earth begins with birth. There are so many things wrong with the world that we can trace back directly to the birth experience. So, if we take care of mothers and babies and create a community around birth, then we are raising children who will know what it means to be emotionally mature, to have boundaries and to feel safe. People who feel safe don’t start wars or get into a lot of trouble.

How do parents pay for midwifery services?

Midwives and birth centers often accept cash, payment plans, credit cards, and certain insurances, like Medi-Cal. I tell expectant parents to, “Put out a shoebox at your baby shower and ask for $20 a head and use that money to pay for your postpartum doula. Help yourself along the way.”  People can also create online fundraisers.

If you were to give every parent and baby a healthy birth bag, what would be in it?

  1. Education, so you know what to expect physiologically and psychologically. Take out some of the surprises. For example, giving birth is generally bloodless, but not vomit-less.
  2. Support without judgment. That can be a partner, a doula, your mother, a partner’s mother, a best friend, aAnd if you have to pay for it, then do, because it’s worth every dime.
  3. Additional nutrition. We don’t want to take anything away from you, but we want to add the nutrition that will help you, your pregnancy and your baby.
  4. External connection, a place to tell your stories and listen to other stories. That’s how we build community.
  5. Two books: The Red Tent by Anita Diamant, which tells the stories of mothers in the Bible and how babies and the birth experience connect us all and The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp, which combines science and wisdom.
  6. A little bit of “woo,” because I definitely believe that babies are incredibly spiritual beings. And birthing people are a passage for these spiritual beings. So, a lot of education, a lot of support, a lot of nutrition, and just a little bit of woo sprinkled on at the end, should cover it.

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BOOK REVIEW: Let Me Be Real With You

At first look, this book might seem like just any other self-help offering. It’s inspirational for casual reader and business reader, both, just like most books in this genre. Dig a little deeper, though, and you’ll spot what makes “Let Me Be Real With You” stand out.

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Book cover of Let Me Be Real With You and author Arshay Cooper. Courtesy of HarperOne.

By Terri Schlichenmeyer

 Author: Arshay Cooper, Copyright: c.2025, Publisher: HarperOne, SRP: $26.00, Page Count: 40 Pages

The hole you’re in is a deep one.

You can see the clouds above, and they look like a storm; you sense the wind, and it’s cold. It’s dark down there, and lonesome, too. You feel like you were born there — but how do you get out of the deep hole you’re in? You read the new book “Let Me Be Real With You” by Arshay Cooper. You find a hand-up and bring someone with you.

In the months after his first book was published, Cooper received a lot of requests to speak to youth about his life growing up on the West Side of Chicago, his struggles, and his many accomplishments. He was poor, bullied, and belittled, but he knew that if he could escape those things, he would succeed. He focused on doing what was best, and right. He looked for mentors and strove to understand when opportunities presented themselves.

Still, his early life left him with trauma. Here, he shows how it’s overcome-able.

We must always have hope, Cooper says, but hope is “merely the catalyst for action. The hope we receive must transform into the hope we give.”

Learn to tell your own story, as honestly as you know it. Be open to suggestions, and don’t dismiss them without great thought. Know that masculinity doesn’t equal stoicism; we are hard-wired to need other people, and sharing “pain and relatability can dissipate shame and foster empathy in powerful ways.”

Remember that trauma is intergenerational, and it can be passed down from parent to child. Let your mentors see your potential. Get therapy, if you need it; there’s no shame in it, and it will help, if you learn to trust it. Enjoy the outdoors when you can. Learn self-control. Give back to your community. Respect your financial wellness. Embrace your intelligence. Pick your friends and relationships wisely. “Do it afraid.”

And finally, remember that “You were born to soar to great heights and rule the sky.”

You just needed someone to tell you that.

At first look, this book might seem like just any other self-help offering. It’s inspirational for casual reader and business reader, both, just like most books in this genre. Dig a little deeper, though, and you’ll spot what makes “Let Me Be Real With You” stand out.

With a willingness to discuss the struggles he tackled in the past, Cooper writes with a solidly honest voice that’s exceptionally believable, and not one bit dramatic. You won’t find unnecessarily embellished stories or tall tales here, either; Cooper instead uses his real experiences to help readers understand that there are few things that are truly insurmountable. He then explains how one’s past can shape one’s future, and how today’s actions can change the future of the world.

“Let Me Be Real With You” is full of motivation, and instruction that’s do-able for adults and teens. If you need that, or if you’ve vowed to do better this coming year, it might help make you whole.

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Support Your Child’s Mental Health: Medi-Cal Covers Therapy, Medication, and More

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When children struggle emotionally, it can affect every part of their lives — at home, in school, with friends, and even their physical health. In many Black families, we’re taught to be strong and push through. But our kids don’t have to struggle alone. Medi-Cal provides mental health care for children and youth, with no referral or diagnosis required.

Through  California Advancing and Innovating Medi-Cal (CalAIM), the state is transforming how care is delivered. Services are now easier to access and better connected across mental health, physical health, and family support systems. CalAIM brings care into schools, homes, and communities, removing barriers and helping children get support early, before challenges escalate.

Help is Available, and it’s Covered

Under Medi-Cal, every child and teen under age 19 has the right to mental health care. This includes screenings, therapy, medication support, crisis stabilization, and help coordinating services. Parents, caregivers, and children age 12 or older can request a screening at any time, with no diagnosis or referral required.

Medi-Cal’s Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Program 

For children and youth with more serious mental health needs, including those in foster care or involved in the justice system, Medi-Cal offers expanded support, including:

  • Family-centered and community-based therapy to address trauma, behavior challenges, or system involvement.
  • Wraparound care teams that help keep children safely at home or with relatives.
  • Activity funds that support healing through sports, art, music, and therapeutic camps.
  • Initial joint behavioral health visits, where a mental health provider and child welfare worker meet with the family early in a case.
  • Child welfare liaisons in Medi-Cal health plans who help caregivers and social workers get services for children faster

Keeping Kids Safe from Opioids and Harmful Drugs

DHCS is also working to keep young people safe as California faces rising risks from opioids and counterfeit pills. Programs like Elevate Youth California and Friday Night Live give teens mentorship, leadership opportunities, and positive outlets that strengthen mental well-being.

Through the California Youth Opioid Response, families can learn how to avoid dangerous substances and get treatment when needed. Song for Charlie provides parents and teens with facts and tools to talk honestly about mental health and counterfeit pills.

DHCS also supports groups like Young People in Recovery, which helps youth build skills for long-term healing, and the Youth Peer Mentor Program, which trains teens with lived experience to support others. These efforts are part of California’s strategy to protect young people, prevent overdoses, and help them make healthier choices.

Support for Parents and Caregivers

Children thrive when their caregivers are supported. Through CalAIM’s vision of whole-person care, Medi-Cal now covers dyadic services, visits where a child and caregiver meet together with a provider to strengthen bonding, manage stress, and address behavior challenges.

These visits may include screening the caregiver for depression or anxiety and connecting them to food, housing, or other health-related social needs, aligning with CalAIM’s Community Supports framework. Notably, only the child must be enrolled in Medi-Cal to receive dyadic care.

Family therapy is also covered and can take place in clinics, schools, homes, or via telehealth, reflecting CalAIM’s commitment to flexible, community-based care delivery.

Additionally, BrightLife Kids offers free tools, resources, and virtual coaching for caregivers and children ages 0–12. Families can sign up online or through the BrightLife Kids app. No insurance, diagnosis, or referral is required.

For teens and young adults ages 13–25, California offers Soluna, a free mental health app where young people can chat with coaches, learn coping skills, journal, or join supportive community circles. Soluna is free, confidential, available in app stores, and does not require insurance.

CalHOPE also provides free emotional support to all Californians through a 24/7 support line at (833) 317-HOPE (4673), online chat, and culturally responsive resources.

Support at School — Where Kids Already Are

Schools are often the first place where emotional stress is noticed. Through the Children and Youth Behavioral Health Initiative (CYBHI), public schools, community colleges, and universities can offer therapy, counseling, crisis support, and referrals at no cost to families.

Services are available during school breaks and delivered on campus, by phone or video, or at community sites. There are no copayments, deductibles, or bills.

Medi-Cal Still Covers Everyday Care

Medi-Cal continues to cover everyday mental health care, including therapy for stress, anxiety, depression, or trauma; medication support; crisis stabilization; hospital care when needed; and referrals to community programs through county mental health plans and Medi-Cal health plans.

How to Get Help

  • Talk to your child’s teacher, school counselor, or doctor.
  • In Alameda County call 510-272-3663 or the toll-free number 1-800-698-1118 and in San Francisco call 855-355-5757 to contact your county mental health plan to request an assessment or services.
  • If your child is not enrolled in Medi-Cal, you can apply at com or my.medi-cal.ca.gov.
  • In a mental health emergency, call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

Every child deserves to grow up healthy and supported. Medi-Cal is working to transform care so it’s accessible, equitable, and responsive to the needs of every family.

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