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By Marquesa LaDawn
NNPA Columnist

 

The Real Housewives of New Jersey – (Personal Accountability) Even if you do not watch reality tv, you could not have missed this story; I’ll tell you the quick version, Teresa and her husband, Joe Guidice, are two heavy hitters on the RHONJ, and they got caught with their hands in the cookie jar. Personal accountability is a foreign concept to this couple, especially Teresa; nothing is ever her fault. She lives in excuses land. Well, she got away with it for a long time, but all good things must come to an end. Regardless of what you and I believe, they pleaded guilty on multiple accounts of fraud and got 15 months (Teresa) and 41 months (Joe) in prison. The Lesson: Deal with your issues before the law gets involved and you lose all control!

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills– (The queen can fall) I’m not a fan of emotional people who take everything personally. That being said, I’ve learned to be empathetic to different personality types. Lisa Vanderpump, who seems to be popular, is on two Bravo reality TV shows, is a tough nut to crack. She’s a smart business woman and nice friend, but if you offend her she never forgives you. She projects the aura of being the Queen Bee and I get that, but she forgets to keep her peeps happy. Last season, her peeps turned on her and all hell broke loose and in Queen Bee fashion she never said “I’m sorry” or took any level of responsibility. Sounds familiar? What’s really annoying is how she blames her Brit origin as the reason for her lack of empathy, my response, you are in America, act like it.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta- (Is your house really a home?) The law seems to be busy in the reality TV world and the RHOA is no exception. Apollo Nida, a house husband to Phaedra Parks, was sentenced to eight years in prison, making this his second time behind bars for a long amount of time. He’s a good looking, smooth talking bad boy, who seems to be challenged with doing the right thing. In an ironic situation his wife, soon to be ex- wife, calls herself a Southern belle. You know that Phaedra’s pattern is sharing as little as possible and appearing to be perfect. It doesn’t help that her husband, now in prison, hurt her reputation from the moment he was introduced, then continued to make bad decisions, including flirting with other women. On top of all of this, his favorite line was “Nobody can control me or tell me what to do or how to act.” I think he forgot the law. Of course, Phaedra, is not completely blameless, she’s a smart woman that pretends to miss things, like money being spent by her husband, etc.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta– (Being a mother does not give you a pass…) Oh my goodness, where do I begin, they call her Mama Joyce and boy did she pull the wool over our eyes during the early seasons. Well, all was revealed, and Mama Joyce is the meanest mom on the planet. She’s like a gangsta mom, literally, she threatens to fight even when she clearly starts the argument. She lies like she breathes, she feels that when it comes to her daughter Kandi, she can do anything she wants – and she does. I remember watching Kandi’s beautiful wedding, and when the cameras focused on her frown-faced mother, several of Kandi’s guests had this look of distaste all over their faces. It was really sad! She is talked about so terribly all over social media, I feel so bad for Kandi. But she is a major enabler and although I understand the need to protect your mom no matter what, it’s important that you ask your mother to respect others.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta- – (We all have a limit) Do you remember the big fight during the reunion when Porsha pulled Kenya’s hair? It was a big moment for RHOA and sealed in their first-place popularity. Kenya Moore is something else, a truly mixed up lady. She’s always the victim, though her behavior encourages a lot of what happens in her life. Well, this reunion was no different: she insulted, put objects in people’s face and thought there was no limit. Little did she know, it’s a bad idea to push a recent divorcee with mean words. She learned this hard lesson once Porsha reacted by pushing her down and pulling her hair (thank goodness it’s real).
FINAL WORD: Don’t assume all reality TV is trash; some of it, maybe. But, if you really pay attention, you can learn so much. I think reality TV should make us all look in the mirror and ask ourselves if we in some context share a similar behavior, I know I have. I think reality TV can be great therapy! So stretch out on the couch and get ready for my next column.

Marquesa LaDawn is a professional business woman who escapes the pressures of living in New York City by retreating into the real world of reality TV.

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Arts and Culture

IN MEMORIAM: Oakland Dance Legend Reginald Ray-Savage, 67

Savage lived his life as tribute to the teachers who had shared their wisdom on art and life with him. With a palpably genuine enthusiasm and desire to bring out the best in people, and pass the torch to the next generation, he poured into his students, as his teachers and mentors had into him. His infectious energy, love of life, and generosity of spirit inspired countless souls, both inside and outside the dance studio.

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Reginald Ray-Savage brought the old-school teaching techniques he learned in the Katherine Dunham Dance Company to the youth at the Oakland School for the Arts in 2003. Courtesy photo.
Reginald Ray-Savage brought the old-school teaching techniques he learned in the Katherine Dunham Dance Company to the youth at the Oakland School for the Arts in 2003. Courtesy photo.

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Reginald Ray-Savage – dancer, choreographer, and beloved teacher, mentor, and inspiration to many – passed away on May 17. The Oakland School for the Arts dance instructor was 67.

Born Reginald Ray, Jr. in St. Louis, Missouri, on Sept. 5, 1958, he formally adopted the name ‘Savage,’ to honor the great Archie Savage, his mentor at Katherine Dunham’s Performing Arts Training Center where his dance training journey began in East St. Louis, Illinois.

He soon started dancing professionally with Katherine Dunham Dance Company, making dance a way of life. His grit, tenacity, and notorious work ethic brought him scholarships to train at multiple prestigious dance institutions, including The Ailey School (NYC) and Ruth Page School of Dance (Chicago), under the direction of acclaimed ballet instructor Larry Long and Dolores Lipinski-Long.

He danced with several companies including Joel Hall Dance Company, Ruth Page Ballet Chicago, Lyric Opera, Chicago City Ballet, American Festival Ballet, and touring productions of “Music Man” and “A Chorus Line”.

In 1989, Savage moved to Oakland where he started teaching seven days a week, amassing a devoted following that was attracted to his no-nonsense, impassioned, and effective old-school teaching style.

In 1992, at the insistence of his committed core of students, he founded Savage Jazz Dance Company (SJDC). Over a span of 30 years, Savage produced more than 100 original works, and tour SJDC nationally and internationally, performing at Casa del Jazz in Rome to a packed house and rave reviews—the first dance company to receive such an invitation.

Savage built SJDC into one of the Bay Area’s most respected dance companies, creating a signature style known for its combination of disciplined training, blended with rich artistic musical expression, and raw energy.

In 2003, Savage joined the Oakland School for the Arts as chair of the School of Dance. Over the next two decades, he created, built, and maintained a strong dance program, recognized, and respected by other dance institutions for forging well-trained and resilient dancers and human beings.

The depth of Savage’s tough love and care, and the skill of his teaching and mentoring are reflected in the careers of his students who have gone on to dance with the San Francisco Ballet, Martha Graham Dance Company, Mark Morris Dance Group, Janet Jackson, Ariana Grande, and companies across the globe.

Savage lived his life as tribute to the teachers who had shared their wisdom on art and life with him. With a palpably genuine enthusiasm and desire to bring out the best in people, and pass the torch to the next generation, he poured into his students, as his teachers and mentors had into him. His infectious energy, love of life, and generosity of spirit inspired countless souls, both inside and outside the dance studio.

Mark Kitaoka, a photographer hired by Savage in 2016, posted a living eulogy on the dance instructor.

“When I see the self-pride he builds in his students I am constantly impressed that people like Savage still exist in our ‘meme’ society,” Kitaoka wrote. “The kids he mentors are fiercely loyal to one another and I’m certain his methods teach each of those kids to put aside social status, race and gender and is replaced by solid loyalty for other souls.

“What Savage contributes to our world cannot be completely summed up in a few meager paragraphs but can be seen in the countless lives of those he has touched. Because of him, our world, and the world of the future is both a richer and better place.

Reginald Ray-Savage will forever be missed, remembered, and lovingly quoted. He is survived by his beloved wife, Alison Hurley, his sister, Sonia, and his brothers, Pierre, and Andre. May his inextinguishable spirit and impact live on in all the lives he touched.

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Oakland Post: Week of June 17 – 23, 2026

The printed Weekly Edition of the Oakland Post: Week of June 17 – 23, 2026

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Book Review: Something We Said: Richard Pryor, A Notorious Word, and Me

Though sticks and stones and words are weapons, as in the new memoir, “Something We Said” by Elizabeth Stordeur Pryor, they can also hold people together.

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Author: Elizabeth Stordeur Pryor, Copyright: c.2026, Publisher: Simon & Schuster, SRP: $29.00, Page Count: 304 pages

Sticks and stones may break my bones.

You know the rest of that childhood rhyme, and you know it’s not true: words have meaning, and they can cut like a knife. And yet, though sticks and stones and words are weapons, as in the new memoir, “Something We Said” by Elizabeth Stordeur Pryor, they can also hold people together.

The college lecture was supposed to have been about the 1850 Fugitive Slave Act.

It was supposed to be a lively discussion, but unintentionally it quickly veered off course. When a White student quoted a movie line featuring the “n-word,” the room went quiet, and Professor Elizabeth Stordeur Pryor panicked.

She’d grown up hearing that word, and seeing it, and she’d experienced the painful feelings attached to it. She knew who wrote that movie line. It was her father, Richard Pryor.

In her first few years, Pryor spent most of her time in a White world, hearing her mother’s tales of her larger-than-life father, and trying to grasp meaning in her father’s albums, peppered as they were with a word that was off-limits to her.

When she was six, she met her father for the first time. She began to visit him regularly.

It was fun at her Dad’s house; though he was sometimes moody, he taught her to fish and play dominoes. She became close with her siblings, fearful of her great-grandmother, and confused about a word that her father’s uncles threw around like a beach ball. It was a forbidden word at her mother’s house, but her father used it. Differently. Often.

The word hurt. She knew first-hand that it did.

“The word became a degrading slur that shackled all Black people together into a single, inescapable tribe,” she says.

So why was it okay for certain people to say it?

Knowing that, in the years since Richard Pryor’s accident and his death from multiple sclerosis, he’s become somewhat of a legend. It is a very satisfying thing, isn’t it? So is reading about him, especially from the viewpoint of one of his seven children. But his is not the only story you get inside “Something We Said.”

Wrapped around the life of Richard Pryor is the life of a word that straddles a line between danger and provocation, a word that author Elizabeth Stordeur Pryor refuses to say or even print. As she tells readers about her father and her loving-but-difficult relationship with him, she warily circles that word, as if it might bite. You may cringe, but she weighs it carefully, helping readers see it as a chameleon before always bringing us back to her father, his work, and his life before and after her and that word.

It’s a push-pull balance that holds readers fast, and keeps them there. It’s perfect for fans of this genre, or Richard Pryor, or of language – and it’s going to make you think. If you want a good memoir this week, one that may send you to your old album collection, “Something We Said” is rock-solid.

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